What about a home invasion?


You’re sitting in front of your TV – watching your favorite show.  Suddenly…you realize you’re not alone.  You sense  a stranger in your house.

What are you going to do?

Well, the first thing you are going to do is…right now…plan your escape routes.  Know what you’re going to do if the bad guy is coming in your front door.  Know what you’re going to do if the bad guy is looking in your kitchen  window.

Preparing for a home invasion is definitely not rocket science but it does take some focused mental preparation. Important on your list is knowing where every window and door are located.  This may seem silly to ask yourself to count  your own windows and doors but once you have this information organized,  you can plan escape routes.

How should you leave your home if the attacker comes in the front door?

What about if you just find him in your bedroom?

What should you do to escape if you think you have more than 1 attacker?

Important in this preparation is an escape package in every room.  You won’t need a lot of things but you want them organized and hidden so you can get to them quickly.  Items for your escape pack include

extra car keys with remote starter

mace/pepper spray

knife or other tool

phone with 911 predialed.


After you’ve thought the scenarios through, you’ll  know what to put in your escape packs.  Having one in every room may seem like overkill but you probably can’t control how or when you will be attacked.  You can only be as prepared as possible.

Preparation is important because it’s what gives you an advantage.  Unless your attacker knows you, this familiarity with doors and windows and where they open to will help you escape faster.  Even if your attacker knows you, your planning will give you an advantage as you escape.

In a home invasion, your best chance of survival is through  planned exits.

Keep a phone by your side always.   As soon as you think someone is in your home, call 911 while you’re getting out.  Don’t bother to waste any time wondering what the invader is up to.  Focus your attention on getting out the door, calling the cops, making sure your life is safe.

On your way out the escape route, don’t hesitate to throw a lamp or chair or scissors, or anything else at your attacker.  Have mace or pepper spray handy in every area of your home.  Don’t be afraid to use it as you take off.

And, don’t just take my word on this subject.  It’s too important.  I invite you to go to http://www.shootingforwomenalliance.com and read  Susan Carrichner Rexrode’s story.  She tells it beautifully.


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Get Yourself Ready for a Split Second Decision


When things begin to get serious in a situation and you feel you need to do something  to protect yourself and those around you, you’re not going to have time to call anybody except 911.  And…calling 911 doesn’t really need much advance preparation.  Just have your phone in your hand and call.  Other than that, forget it.

As I spend months and months preparing to defend myself, I know  there are a few basic situations:

Home Invasion

Car Jacking



Movie theater/mall invasion

church shooting

school shooting

Whenever you drive into the parking lot of the movie theater or mall, mentally review how you’ll act if you suddenly see a heavily armed person in the building.

Don’t be afraid to mentally rehearse this scenario.  Rehearsals will only  make you a stronger person if you’re ever confronted with such a situation. And, let’s face it, movie theater/mall invasions are happening more and more often.  It’s almost as if they’re a fad.

School campuses, churches, movie theaters, malls are magnets because attackers go where crowds gather.

The first thing you want to decide is how you’re going to protect yourself in this situation.  If you’re ever in a situation where you see a heavily armed person in a theater or mall,  know it’ll be scary and life threatening.

Before you do anything,  decide if you’re going to arm yourself.  If you decide to carry a weapon,  what can you legally take in the building?  What does your state/county/town permit?

Can you carry  a gun?

Must it be concealed?  Must it be open carry?

What kind of firearm can you use…if you can even use one?

If the answer is that you can take a gun, then your next question is this:

Do you have one?

Is it right  for the job?

Are you trained to use it?

Is it properly stored in your home?

Do you have a permit for it?

Are you  comfortable with this option?

If not, what do you have to do to become comfortable?

If a gun seems out of the question, what about a knife?

Do you have one?

Do you know how to use it?

Is it the right size for the job you’re intending to use it for?

Do you have Mace or pepper spray?

Like with the gun, is it legal in your state, county, community?

How can you legally carry it?

After you answer the questions, you know what direction to go in.  Your first step is to get comfortable with carrying and using the weapon you have chosen.  Then, you need to get comfortable with the idea that you can now go into a mall/movie theater armed to protect not only yourself but those around you.

People have a tendency to freeze when they see someone with a weapon.  Weapons are such powerful intimidators.  Spend some time mentally adjusting yourself to  scenarios where you won’t  be intimidated by an armed person who is aggressive.

What you will do in this situation?

Do you think you’ll be able to run?

Will you have time to run?

Will you be ready to dial 911?

Can you charge this person if  you need to?

Have you taken self defense classes which will help you?

As you mentally rehearse this situation, imagine how it will play out if you are in a seat watching a movie.  How will it play out if you are in a line getting popcorn? What might happen if you are in the women’s room?  Imagine what will happen if you simply freeze up.  Imagine what will happen in all of the different ways you can come up with.

Every time you go to the movies, notice the exit signs.  Look at the people around you.

How crowded is the theater?

Notice what each person looks like.

Pay attention to who is sitting where.

Where is the safest place in the theater for you to sit?  The front of the theater, the middle rows, the rear rows?

How close can you get to the exit?

As you sit in the theater, try to figure out where the attacker might stand.  Imagine a scene playing itself out.  Consider the time frame of any actions the attacker might take.  Imagine how you might react in different scenarios.

Imagine what you will be doing.

How much time will you have in each scene?

What will you have to do to overcome the attacker?

When the situation is real, there will be no time to contemplate the situation.  You have to be ready to take control immediately.

Mentally rehearse situations where you are in the movie theater, in a public area of a mall, in the food court of the mall, in the mall parking lot.  The settings will be different but the actions will basically be the same.

How will you act in each situation?



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Do you know a college student?


“1 in 4  Women experience Sex Assault on Campus”.  This headline appeared in the New York Times on September 22nd  this year.  Richard Perez-Pena wrote an in-depth and shocking article about campus assault and rape.

And, as detailed and shocking as the article was, there was nothing in it that women everywhere don’t already know.  What we also know is that any coed experiencing rape is going to have an uphill battle when/if she reports it.

For that reason alone, I find it hard to believe the statistics.  Women  experience unwanted sexual advances, assault, and rape and then just keep their mouths shut.

There is much that can and needs to be done to stop this behavior.  With this blog post, I’m offering  one small step that can be used by all of us.  It is a start…nothing more.

And, what is this one small step?  A self defense ring.

Women,  get a self defense ring.    This is the item which will work to  prove you’re not lying when/if you decide to tell your story.  The self defense ring has a   pronged setting or overlarge dome which will catch your attacker’s skin and flesh as you defend yourself.

It’s all too popular nowadays for rape kits to get lost.  How best to hide the evidence?  Well, with a self defense ring, you have your attacker’s DNA which you can keep in a box for future use if you need it.

Self defense rings don’t have to be expensive or gorgeous, even.  What they do need  is a setting or design high pronged enough to grab skin.  I bought mine at Gabriel’s Reclaimed Jewelry in the Mower’s Meadow Flea Market in Woodstock.  Richard Polhemus can be reached at 845-853-2079.

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